Lifestyle Technology
Getting High on Exercise and REM Sleep
There are two kinds of drugs: the ones you take, and the ones you earn.
Coffee, alcohol, and marijuana move your state by chemical leverage. Exercise and REM sleep move your state by making your biology do what it was built to do. One is borrowed energy; the other is generated energy. Borrowing can be rational—but it always comes with fine print written in sleep.
REM Sleep: the brain’s nightly integration drug
Sleep cycles through non-REM and REM (Rapid Eye Movement). REM is high brain activity, vivid dreaming, and a “safety lock” on your muscles while your mind runs simulations.
REM’s main function is integration: consolidating memory and processing emotion. When REM is consistently disrupted, waking life tends to degrade in predictable ways:
- Irritability / threat-sensitivity: less emotional recalibration
- Lower creativity: fewer novel associations, more rigidity
- More appetite / cravings: sleep loss pushes hunger and undermines satiety
- Worse trauma processing: emotional memories stay “hotter,” less digested
REM is emotional bookkeeping. Skip it and your psyche cooks the books.
Three popular drugs, three ways of stealing REM
Coffee (caffeine): “mute the sleep pressure”
Caffeine blocks adenosine (sleep pressure). You feel awake, but the need for sleep isn’t paid—only silenced. It tends to reduce sleep quality and can delay REM accumulation.
Cost: REM gets delayed/compressed.
Next day: alert, but with thinner emotional margin.
Alcohol: “sedate now, sabotage later”
Alcohol can knock you out, then fragments the second half of sleep and suppresses REM early, often followed by restless rebound.
Cost: less REM + more broken sleep.
Next day: dulled mood plus irritability.
Marijuana (THC): “thin the dream”
THC often reduces REM and dream intensity; stopping can produce REM rebound and vivid dreaming.
Cost: REM suppression while using; rebound on withdrawal.
Next day: sometimes calm, sometimes emotionally “unprocessed.”
Caffeine postpones sleep, alcohol impersonates it, THC edits it.
Exercise: the high that pays you back
Exercise gives an immediate “earned drug” effect—mood lift and calm (likely via endocannabinoids and related stress chemistry)—and it tends to improve overall sleep quality rather than wrecking it.
So exercise gets you high twice:
- Now: earned reward chemistry
- Tonight: better sleep architecture, including more coherent REM
Exercise doesn’t fake a state; it builds the organism that deserves it.
The stealth drugs: processed food and content media
Ultra-processed food
Engineered combinations of sugar/fat/salt produce unusually reliable reward hits—often driving craving and loss-of-control patterns.
Side effects: cravings, mood volatility, appetite dysregulation—worse when sleep-deprived.
If it was engineered to be irresistible, “willpower” isn’t the whole story.
Content media (short video, news feeds, porn)
These often run on variable reward loops—the slot-machine schedule for attention. They trigger dopamine-driven checking, emotion spikes, and cue-conditioning that can bend behavior away from rational self-interest.
Side effects: attention fragmentation, reactive mood cycles (news), compulsive loops (porn), reduced agency.
What you repeatedly consume becomes your default desire.
A value-consistent “drug stack”
- Exercise by day: earned calm + stronger baseline
- REM by night: integration, emotional cleanup, creative recombination
- Minimize REM thieves: caffeine late, alcohol at night, THC-as-sleep-tool
- Watch stealth drugs: ultra-processed food + algorithmic content
Choose highs that expand your agency, not ones that rent it.
Tug-of-War
Think of “tug of war” as a picture of how couples handle conflict, power, and ego—and notice that each couple defines “winning” by a different standard.
1) The couple that pulls as hard as they can
Their standard is: “I win if I get my way.”
So every disagreement becomes a test of dominance. They may “win” arguments, but they lose something more important: ease, trust, affection, and the sense that the relationship is a safe place to think and be honest.
This is war-as-a-lifestyle. Even the “winner” lives with an enemy.
2) The couple where one “lets the other win”
Their standard is: “I win if you’re not upset,” or “I win if I’m ‘good’ by yielding.”
That looks peaceful, but it’s often a slow trade of self-respect for temporary calm. The one who yields builds resentment; the one who’s indulged becomes dependent or entitled; the relationship becomes lopsided—less a partnership than a pattern.
This isn’t harmony. It’s appeasement.
3) The couple that pulls very gently
Their standard is different: “We win if we both stay on the same side—reality.”
They don’t treat conflict as a contest of wills. They treat it as a joint problem to solve.
“Pulling gently” doesn’t mean being weak or never disagreeing. It means:
- no humiliation, no escalation, no scorekeeping
- a willingness to pause, define the issue, and look for facts
- negotiating without sacrificing core values
- caring more about understanding than “defeating”
They’re happiest because they’ve changed the game. They’ve replaced force with reason—and in a relationship, reason is the only “power” that doesn’t poison love.
Why they’re the real winners
Because the real prize in a relationship isn’t control. It’s shared joy—two independent minds choosing each other, trading value for value, and making life better together.
If “winning” costs you the person, you lost. If it builds the bond, you won.
Pre-Parenting: Choosing Parenthood Before the Child Exists
Definition. Pre-parenting is the deliberate, sustained act of thinking through what it would mean to raise a child—values, responsibilities, tradeoffs, practical constraints—long before any child is conceived. It is not daydreaming about a cute future. It is a form of moral and practical planning: treating parenthood as a chosen obligation that should be evaluated with the same seriousness as any life-defining commitment.
To understand the concept clearly, we need to distinguish it from nearby ideas:
- Fantasy parenting: imagining an idealized child and an idealized self, insulated from risk and cost.
- Anxiety parenting: rehearsing fears without converting them into plans or principles.
- Pre-parenting: integrating aspirations with realities—biology, time, money, temperament, partnership, health, career, culture—then making decisions consistent with that integration.
Pre-parenting begins with a simple fact: a child is not a lifestyle accessory. A child is a developing human mind and body that will depend on you for years. If you accept that fact, then it becomes rational to consider parenthood before the moment when desire, momentum, or circumstance makes the decision for you.
The Core Question: “What am I signing up for?”
Every serious commitment has two parts: the goal and the cost. Pre-parenting forces both into view.
The goal is not merely “having a kid.” The goal is raising a person—one capable of thinking, acting, and living independently. If that is the goal, then parenting is not primarily about control or possession. It is about guidance, protection, and ultimately release: helping another person become able to run their own life.
The cost is equally real: time, sleep, money, emotional labor, conflict resolution, medical risks, unpredictable outcomes, and the permanent reorganization of priorities. Pre-parenting rejects the evasive hope that “it’ll work out somehow” as a substitute for a plan. Hope is not a method.
What Pre-Parenting Actually Thinks About
Pre-parenting is not one thought repeated obsessively. It is a structured inquiry. The most rational approach is to divide it into domains.
1) Values: What kind of adult are you trying to help create?
A future child does not begin as a blank slate, nor as a pre-written script. Temperament varies; environment matters. But values are still central because they shape the culture of the home: what is praised, what is punished, what is discussed, and what is ignored.
Pre-parenting asks:
- Do I value independence or conformity?
- Do I treat reason and honesty as non-negotiable?
- Do I want my child to fear mistakes—or to learn from them?
- Do I model what I demand?
These questions matter because children learn less from lectures than from observed causality: what actions lead to what consequences in the adults around them.
2) Competence: Can you provide stable care without resentment?
A child requires more than love. Love without competence becomes chaos with good intentions.
Pre-parenting evaluates:
- Financial stability (not luxury—stability)
- Time availability and the realism of schedules
- Emotional regulation under stress
- Health, energy, and support systems
- The willingness to repeat basics for years: meals, sleep routines, school logistics, doctor visits, supervision
The key is not perfection. The key is honesty: can you do the work consistently without turning the child into the scapegoat for a life you did not actually choose?
3) Partnership: Are the adults aligned?
If parenting is shared, misalignment is not a minor issue—it is a structural threat. Children adapt to household reality; they also suffer from it.
Pre-parenting asks:
- Do we agree on discipline and boundaries?
- Do we agree on education, religion, screens, and extended family involvement?
- How do we resolve conflict now—and will that method scale under sleep deprivation?
- What happens if one parent becomes ill, unemployed, or overwhelmed?
A couple that cannot discuss these topics calmly is not “passionate.” It is unprepared.
4) Risk: Are you prepared for non-ideal outcomes?
The sentimental picture of parenthood assumes a healthy child, typical development, and manageable challenges. Reality does not guarantee that.
Pre-parenting includes the willingness to face:
- Disability and long-term care needs
- Mental health struggles
- Learning differences
- Social difficulties and bullying
- The child making choices you would not choose
To consider these is not pessimism. It is respect for reality. And respect for reality is respect for the future child, because it reduces the odds that they will be loved only under ideal conditions.
The Psychological Temptation: Loving the Idea of a Child
Pre-parenting also confronts a subtle temptation: loving the idea of a child more than the reality of raising a person.
The idea-child is always adorable, grateful, and successful. The reality-child may be stubborn, anxious, strange, brilliant, slow, rebellious, or simply ordinary. Pre-parenting is the discipline of shifting from “What will this child give me?” to “What will I owe them?”
That shift is the moral core of the concept.
Pre-Parenting as Character Development
A striking consequence of pre-parenting is that it often improves a person before they become a parent.
If you take seriously the prospect of guiding a developing mind, you are pushed to ask:
- Do I tell the truth—even when it’s inconvenient?
- Do I handle frustration without cruelty?
- Do I rely on guilt and intimidation—or on explanation and consistency?
- Do I keep my promises?
- Do I have a life I would want a child to witness?
Pre-parenting becomes self-audit. Not in the spirit of self-loathing, but in the spirit of causal responsibility: if you will be someone’s model of adulthood, you should be worth modeling.
The Main Danger: Turning Thought into Obsession
Every virtue has a counterfeit. Pre-parenting can deform into rumination: endless analysis that never reaches conclusion, or a rigid blueprint that cannot adapt to a real child.
A rational standard is this:
Planning is good when it increases clarity and readiness.
Planning is bad when it substitutes for action or becomes a demand for certainty that life cannot provide.
The point is not to predict every detail. The point is to ensure that the decision to become a parent is chosen, not drifted into; and that the responsibilities are accepted, not discovered in panic.
A Rational Conclusion: Parenthood Should Be a Voluntary Obligation
Pre-parenting treats parenthood as what it is: a voluntary act that creates involuntary dependence in another human being. That asymmetry makes it morally serious. You can walk away from a hobby; you cannot ethically walk away from a child.
So the ultimate purpose of pre-parenting is not to create the perfect family fantasy. It is to answer, with full awareness:
- Do I genuinely want the role of raising a person?
- Am I willing to pay the costs without resentment?
- Have I aligned my life—values, habits, relationships, resources—so that a child will not be punished for my evasions?
If the answer is yes, pre-parenting is the groundwork of responsible parenthood. If the answer is no, pre-parenting is equally valuable—because it prevents a decision that would harm both parent and child.
In either case, it serves the same end: bringing choice under the rule of reason.
Glimmering, a concept from my fiancée
Glimmering: choosing the past as fuel, not as a prison
To think clearly about glimmering, we need a definition.
Glimmering is the deliberate act of remembering specific good experiences from one’s past in order to re-experience—here and now—the positive emotions connected to them. It is not escapism, and it is not denial. It is a mental action: selecting real evidence that life has contained value, then allowing that evidence to register emotionally.
This matters because happiness is not a mysterious gift that arrives uncaused. Happiness is a response to perceived value. If the mind can perceive a value in the present, it can also perceive a value that was present—and that perception can still produce joy.
1) What glimmering is—and what it is not
Memory is not merely a storage cabinet of images. It is a cognitive tool. When you remember, you are reactivating facts you once observed: a moment of competence, love, beauty, friendship, discovery, relief, laughter, or quiet peace. In glimmering, you do this on purpose.
But glimmering must be distinguished from two common corruptions of remembering:
Nostalgia as distortion. This treats the past as a fantasy land—smoother, purer, and more perfect than it was. It replaces facts with fog. That kind of remembering weakens you, because it makes the present feel like an inferior substitute for an imaginary world.
Rumination as self-harm. This is the compulsive replay of pain, failure, and humiliation, usually with the goal of “figuring it out,” but in practice it often becomes emotional self-punishment. It enlarges suffering by keeping it cognitively present.
Glimmering is neither. It is reality-based remembering of genuine goods. It does not claim “everything was better.” It claims only what is true: some things were good, and they were real.
2) Why remembering good things can create happiness now
A basic fact: emotion follows appraisal. When you judge something as valuable, you feel attraction, warmth, gratitude, pride, peace, or joy—depending on the kind of value and its context.
A memory, properly formed, contains an appraisal: this mattered; this was good; this was worth it. When you glimmer, you are not manufacturing happiness out of nothing. You are re-contacting a real value and allowing your mind to respond to it again.
This works for at least three reasons:
Integration of identity. A person is not a single moment. You are the sum of your actions and experiences across time. Glimmering tells the truth about you: you have lived through goodness; you have earned, chosen, received, or created value before. That strengthens self-trust.
Evidence against despair. In moments of discouragement, the mind tends to generalize: “Nothing good ever happens,” “I never get what I want,” “It’s always been like this.” Glimmering is a rebuttal grounded in facts. One remembered reality—clear and specific—can puncture a sweeping lie.
Renewal of motivation. Happiness is not only a pleasant feeling; it is fuel. Remembering a moment of meaning can revive the desire to pursue meaning again. The past becomes proof that effort can pay off, that connection is possible, that beauty can be found, that your choices can work.
3) The moral psychology of glimmering: gratitude without dependency
Some people distrust happiness from memory because they fear it makes them passive—like someone living on leftovers. That fear is justified only if remembering becomes an excuse to stop living.
Properly understood, glimmering is gratitude without surrender.
Gratitude is the recognition that a value has been gained. It does not require that the value be present forever. If you once stood under a wide sky after a long day and felt your mind go quiet, that value happened. If you once laughed so hard with a friend that you forgot time, that value happened. If you once built something, learned something, finished something difficult, and felt pride—that pride had a cause. The past is not a rival to the present; it is part of your life’s total reality.
Glimmering becomes unhealthy only when it carries a hidden premise: “My best is behind me.” That premise is not inherent in memory; it is a choice. And it can be rejected.
The rational premise is this: The past contains values; the future can contain new ones. Glimmering is the act of keeping the first half of that statement vivid—so you have the strength to pursue the second.
4) How to glimmer effectively: specificity, not slogans
If glimmering is to be more than sentimental self-talk, it must be concrete. Vague positivity is weak because it has no object.
A useful glimmer is specific:
- a smell (rain on warm pavement),
- a sound (a parent’s laugh, a favorite song in a car at night),
- a scene (a sunset after an exam, a kitchen conversation, a quiet train ride),
- an achievement (a finished project, a difficult conversation handled well),
- a gesture (someone showing up when they didn’t have to).
Specific memories do two things: they anchor you to reality, and they make happiness intelligible. You don’t just feel good “for no reason.” You feel good because this happened.
5) The proper place of the past in a happy life
The past cannot be relived, but it can be integrated. A life without memory is a life without continuity; it would be like reading a book with every page torn out except the one you’re on. Glimmering is the decision to keep your pages.
And there is a deeper point: remembering good things is a form of justice to your own life. If something mattered, it deserves acknowledgment. If you loved someone well, if you tried, if you created, if you learned, if you endured and still found light—those are facts. Ignoring them is not modesty; it is error.
Glimmering is therefore a rational act. It says: I will not let pain be my only historian. I will keep a clear record of what is good, because what is good is real—and the recognition of reality is the basis of any durable happiness.
Conclusion
Glimmering is not a retreat into yesterday. It is the mind reclaiming evidence that life contains value. It produces happiness now because it reactivates real appraisals of real goods. Done properly, it does not replace action; it strengthens action. It reminds you that joy is possible—because it has already been actual.
The past, in this view, is not a museum you wander through in defeat. It is a treasury of proofs: that you have been alive, that goodness has existed, and that your consciousness can recognize it. Glimmering is the quiet, disciplined art of letting those proofs brighten the present—and light the way forward.
The Straight & Narrow Path
Definition
“The straight and narrow path” is a moral-metaphorical concept describing a way of life governed by objective standards, self-discipline, and rational judgment, in contrast to paths driven by impulse, conformity, or expedience.
The phrase originates in the Biblical tradition (Matthew 7:13–14), but its meaning is not inherently mystical. It names a pattern of action, not a supernatural state.
Core Meaning
At its essence, the straight and narrow path is:
The deliberate commitment to live according to truth, despite difficulty, resistance, or cost.
It contrasts with the “wide path,” which represents ease, indulgence, and unexamined acceptance.
Logical Structure
- Reality imposes requirements
Human survival and flourishing depend on acting in accordance with facts—biological, psychological, social, and moral.
- Correct action is not automatic
Desires, fears, and social pressure often conflict with what reality requires.
- Therefore, a proper life requires discipline and judgment
One must choose actions because they are right, not because they are easy or popular.
- That disciplined alignment with reality is the “straight and narrow path.”
Key Characteristics
- Straight → Oriented toward a clear standard; not evasive, not self-contradictory
- Narrow → Excludes alternatives that violate truth; demands selectivity and restraint
- Difficult → Requires effort, thought, and often sacrifice
- Unpopular → Few choose it because most avoid sustained self-governance
What It Is Not
- Not blind obedience
- Not ascetic self-denial for its own sake
- Not conformity to tradition or authority
- Not moral rigidity divorced from reason
Any path followed without understanding is not straight—it is merely habitual.
Rational Interpretation
Stripped of religious imagery, the straight and narrow path is:
The consistent practice of rational integrity—thinking clearly, choosing deliberately, and acting in accordance with reality rather than impulse or approval.
Conclusion
The straight and narrow path is not a road imposed from outside man.
It is the logical consequence of choosing truth over comfort and principle over convenience.
Few walk it—not because it is mysterious, but because it requires thinking and responsibility.
Getting a mortgage
I. Definitions
Loan (Mortgage):
A contractual exchange in which a borrower receives capital now in return for repayment over time with interest, secured by real property.
Rationality:
The use of reason to select actions that best achieve one’s long-term values, given the facts of reality.
Long-term financial future:
A person’s sustained ability to produce, preserve, and enjoy wealth across decades—not merely short-term cash flow.
Mutual benefit:
A voluntary exchange in which all parties gain value according to their own rational judgment.
II. The Individual: Why a Mortgage Can Be Rational
Premise 1: Time is a scarce resource.
If an individual waited to purchase a home only after accumulating the full purchase price in cash, they would sacrifice years or decades of productive life, stability, and use-value.
Conclusion: Accessing capital earlier can rationally improve life outcomes.
Premise 2: Housing is both a consumption good and a capital good.
A home provides:
- Immediate use-value (shelter, stability, productivity)
- Long-term asset value (equity accumulation, inflation hedging)
Conclusion: Financing a home allows one to convert future earning power into present ownership of a durable asset.
Premise 3: A mortgage aligns payment with income production.
Most individuals earn income gradually over time, not in a lump sum.
A mortgage:
Matches cash outflows (monthly payments) to cash inflows (income)
Preserves liquidity for investment, emergencies, or productive use
Conclusion: The loan structure integrates with human earning reality rather than defying it.
Premise 4: Interest is the price of time.
Interest is not exploitation—it is compensation for:
- Risk
- Opportunity cost
- Deferred consumption by the lender
If the borrower’s rate of value gained (housing use, appreciation, stability, productivity) exceeds the cost of interest, the loan is rational.
Conclusion: Debt is rational when it increases net lifetime value.
Individual Summary
Taking a mortgage is rational if and only if:
- The borrower can reliably service the debt
- The asset aligns with long-term values
- The total cost is understood and accepted
- The loan expands productive capacity rather than constraining it
Debt is not evil. Unchosen, unexamined, or unproductive debt is.
III. The Economy: Why Mortgages Matter Systemically
Premise 1: Capital must flow to where it is productive.
Savings that sit idle produce nothing.
Mortgages:
- Channel surplus capital from savers to builders, workers, and buyers
- Convert abstract money into real infrastructure
Conclusion: Mortgages mobilize capital into tangible value creation.
Premise 2: Housing construction multiplies economic activity.
A single mortgage-backed home supports:
- Construction labor
- Materials manufacturing
- Engineering, logistics, services
- Long-term community development
Conclusion: Mortgage lending amplifies economic productivity beyond the borrower alone.
Premise 3: Predictable lending stabilizes markets.
Long-term, fixed-rate mortgages:
- Reduce volatility
- Enable planning
- Encourage investment and innovation
Conclusion: Rational credit systems increase economic coordination and resilience.
IV. Mutual Benefit: The Moral Core of Lending
A mortgage is a voluntary exchange of values across time.
The borrower trades a commitment of future income for immediate access to a home.
What the borrower gains is not merely shelter, but stability, autonomy, and the ability to integrate housing into a long-term life plan.
What is given up is the option to use a portion of future earnings elsewhere. The borrower accepts this trade because the present value of ownership exceeds the future cost.
The lender trades present capital—money that could have been consumed or invested elsewhere—for a structured stream of future payments plus interest.
The lender gains a return that compensates for time preference, risk, and opportunity cost. The lender accepts this trade because the expected return justifies the delay and uncertainty.
Society benefits indirectly but materially.
The transaction activates construction, labor, materials, legal services, and long-term maintenance.
- Capital is converted into durable infrastructure.
- Communities form around owned property.
- Economic planning becomes possible because long-term commitments replace transient arrangements.
No party is compelled. Each participant enters the agreement by rational judgment, expecting to gain. There is no transfer of value by force, no sacrifice imposed for another’s sake.
This is the defining feature of moral economic interaction:
Value is created, not redistributed.
Conclusion
Mortgage lending, properly understood, is not exploitation, dependency, or speculation.
It is a coordinated exchange in which time, capital, and effort are aligned to serve the rational interests of all participants.
That alignment—not the presence or absence of debt—is what determines whether the transaction is sound.
V. Final Integration
A mortgage, rationally chosen and responsibly managed, is:
- A bridge between present capability and future earning power
- A method of transforming income into lasting value
- A mechanism for coordinating individual goals with societal production
It is irrational only when divorced from reality—when income is uncertain, risks are ignored, or consumption replaces value creation.
Reason demands neither fear of debt nor blind acceptance of it—only clarity, calculation, and purpose.
Modern Keyboard Tech Built for Glass, Not Typewriters
What MessagEase is
MessagEase is a keyboard designed for thumbs on glass, not fingers on hardware. It compresses text entry into a tight, learnable system: large targets, short motions, and consistent gestures. It’s not a “keyboard skin.” It’s a different theory of input.
Design is destiny at the scale of seconds.
The Core Value: It matches the reality of phone typing
1) QWERTY is historically inherited, not rationally chosen
QWERTY is a legacy layout shaped by typewriter constraints and desktop assumptions. On a phone it becomes an ergonomic lie: too many tiny keys, too much thumb travel, too many errors, too much correction. MessagEase feels liberating because it stops pretending a phone is a typewriter.
Value delivered: less friction, less error, less wasted movement.
Mechanical Advantages: Why it feels physically “right”
2) One-handed typing becomes reliable (especially with a PopSocket)
A PopSocket stabilizes the device; MessagEase stabilizes the typing motion. Together they create a one-handed rig: the phone is secure, and your thumb operates within a compact zone.
Result: you can type while walking, holding something, or just relaxing—without the constant micro-adjustments QWERTY demands.
3) Your thumb doesn’t need to stretch (especially for frequent letters like “a”)
QWERTY puts common letters at edges and corners on a wide board. That means repeated max-range reaches—death by a thousand stretches. MessagEase keeps high-use actions inside the thumb’s natural arc, so your typing becomes repeatable, not acrobatic.
Result: less fatigue, fewer misses, higher endurance.
Fatigue is a tax on bad geometry.
Performance Advantages: Why it becomes faster than QWERTY
4) Fewer, larger targets reduce error and hesitation
Large keys don’t just reduce mis-taps—they reduce doubt. On QWERTY, part of your brain is constantly confirming “did I hit it?” MessagEase replaces that with confident execution.
Result: speed rises because confidence rises.
5) Efficient motion beats familiar motion
QWERTY feels “easy” because it’s familiar. MessagEase becomes superior because it’s efficient. Once you internalize the map, you’re no longer navigating a grid—you’re executing learned motions. That’s why your timeline makes sense:
6) Two weeks to surpass QWERTY
That’s the signature of a better system with an upfront learning cost. QWERTY gives you instant familiarity and long-term mediocrity. MessagEase asks for adaptation and then pays you back daily.
The best tools feel difficult once—then effortless forever.
Functional Advantages: Why it keeps rewarding you over time
7) It has “depth”: features that compound, not gimmicks
You’re still discovering new ways to use it because it isn’t just text entry. It’s text control.
Tap-Drag-Go matters because it reduces mode-switching. Instead of hunting menus or fiddling with cursor handles, you stay in a continuous action loop.
Gesture-based cursor movement, selection, editing shortcuts, and symbols turn common tasks into muscle memory.
Macros / text expansion (if you use them) convert repetitive typing into single actions.
Customization lets you shape the tool to your hand, device, and preferences.
Result: the value increases with mastery; it doesn’t plateau quickly like “slightly better autocorrect.”
A tool with depth turns practice into profit.
Psychological Advantages: Why you “couldn’t live without it”
8) It creates flow and agency
MessagEase replaces “pecking at keys” with command of a system. That produces a specific kind of satisfaction: the feeling that your phone is responding to you, not negotiating with you.
Result: typing becomes less annoying, more intentional, and surprisingly enjoyable—because you’re not fighting the interface.
The Cost and the Trade
9) The price is learning; the reward is ownership
The only real downside is that it’s not socially standard and it requires retraining. But once you cross the learning threshold, switching back feels like wearing the wrong shoes: possible, but stupidly uncomfortable.
Who it’s best for
People who type a lot on a phone (messages, notes, work).
People who value one-handed operation.
Anyone who hates the thumb stretch / small key problem.
Anyone who prefers systems that reward mastery over time.
The essence
MessagEase is valuable because it’s rational input design: it trades inherited convention for ergonomic truth, then adds layers of power that keep compounding as you learn them.
Final aphorism: QWERTY is tradition. MessagEase is engineering.
Geo-Arbitrage
The core idea
Geo-arbitrage is the practice of earning income in a high-value market while living in a lower-cost geographic location, thereby increasing one’s real purchasing power without reducing productivity or quality of work.
In essence: the same rational effort, exchanged in different places, yields radically different material results.
How it works (causally)
Geo-arbitrage exploits three objective facts:
Money is contextual
A dollar has no intrinsic “standard of living” attached to it. Its value is determined by local prices.
Labor markets and living costs are not synchronized globally
Wages cluster by industry and country; costs cluster by housing, regulation, and infrastructure.
Technology breaks location-dependence
Remote work, online businesses, and global capital flows sever the tie between where you produce and where you live.
When income is decoupled from residence, geography becomes a variable you can choose, not a fate you must accept.
Common forms of geo-arbitrage
Remote employee arbitrage
Salary from a high-wage country; residence in a lower-cost one.
Business-owner arbitrage
Revenue from global markets; personal expenses in a cheaper locale.
Retirement or semi-retirement arbitrage
Fixed income stretched further by lower costs.
Domestic geo-arbitrage
Moving from high-cost cities to lower-cost regions within the same country.
The principle is identical in all cases: maximize value per unit of effort.
What geo-arbitrage is not
Not exploitation
Voluntary exchange benefits all parties. Paying market prices is not “taking advantage.”
Not escapism
Rational relocation is not “running away”; it is choosing a better context for one’s life.
Not anti-work
It presupposes productivity. Without income earned by value creation, there is nothing to arbitrage.
Objectivist evaluation
Properly understood, geo-arbitrage is a rational application of independence and reason.
It embodies:
- Independence — refusing to accept accidental geography as a life determinant.
- Rational self-interest — arranging conditions to better serve one’s long-range values.
- Productiveness — keeping or increasing output while reducing unnecessary costs.
What must be rejected is the altruist smear that portrays this choice as “unfair,” “privileged,” or morally suspect. No one is entitled to your location, income, or sacrifices.
“Man’s life requires that he act for his own sake, guided by reason, not by unchosen obligations imposed by others.”
Relationship to FIRE
Geo-arbitrage is often used to:
- Increase savings rate
- Reach financial independence sooner
- Reduce risk by lowering required income
But it is not limited to early retirement. It is equally valid for career acceleration, entrepreneurship, or creative work.
Bottom line
Geo-arbitrage is the rational selection of context.
It is the recognition that where you live is a means to your values—not a moral duty or tribal allegiance.
What is Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE)
The core idea
FIRE is a life strategy aimed at financial independence—having sufficient invested assets that your living expenses can be paid indefinitely from returns—so that work becomes optional, not compulsory. “Retire Early” does not mean permanent leisure; it means freedom of choice over how you use your time.
From an Objectivist standpoint, the moral essence is this: productive achievement in the present buys independence in the future. Money is not a mystical talisman; it is stored effort.
How FIRE works (in essentials)
High savings rate
FIRE emphasizes saving 30–70% of income by keeping expenses consciously below earnings.
Systematic investing
Savings are invested—typically in diversified equity funds—so capital compounds over time.
The independence threshold
A common rule of thumb is ~25× annual expenses invested (the “4% rule”). At that level, withdrawals can plausibly sustain spending long-term.
Optional early exit
Once independent, one may continue working, change careers, build a business, or pursue non-commercial projects—by choice.
Variants you’ll hear about
Lean FIRE – very low expenses, minimal lifestyle.
Fat FIRE – higher spending supported by larger assets.
Barista FIRE – partial independence plus enjoyable part-time work.
Coast FIRE – invest early, then let compounding do the rest while covering current expenses.
These are tactical differences. The principle is the same: control over your time through earned capital.
What FIRE is not
Not anti-work: Work is a value; coerced work is the evil FIRE rejects.
Not asceticism: Frugality is a means, not a moral end. Cutting values is irrational.
Not escapism: The goal is sovereignty over one’s life, not withdrawal from reality.
Objectivist evaluation
Properly understood, FIRE is morally legitimate and often admirable—if it is grounded in:
Productiveness: Wealth earned through value-creation, not sacrifice or guilt.
Rational self-interest: Saving and investing as long-range planning.
Independence: Freedom from the necessity to sell one’s hours under duress.
Improperly practiced, FIRE can slide into anti-achievement minimalism—treating consumption-avoidance as a virtue or regarding work itself as a necessary evil. That inversion must be rejected.
“Money is a tool of exchange—earned by the mind and effort of productive men—and it represents the power to choose one’s values.”
Bottom line
FIRE is best seen as early financial sovereignty. It is not about “retiring from life,” but about owning your time. When pursued as a consequence of rational productivity—and used to expand, not shrink, one’s range of values—it aligns fully with a life of reason, purpose, and self-esteem.
Would you like to go deeper into the math, investment philosophy, or how FIRE fits different careers?
When Headlines Become “Reality”: How Media Distorts Worldviews—and How to Reclaim a Fact-Based Mind | Factfulness
A modern mind lives under siege—not from reality, but from curated fragments of it. Headlines do not present the world; they present exceptions, selected for emotional impact, stripped of proportion, and broadcast as if they were the essence of life. The result is a subtle epistemological corruption: people come to treat the newsfeed as metaphysics—as though reality itself is catastrophic, unstable, and incomprehensible.
But most of reality is not breaking. It is building. It is routine cause-and-effect, incremental progress, predictable tradeoffs, and slow-moving trends. The world is usually mundane—not because nothing matters, but because most causation is gradual.
The headline fallacy: “If it’s loud, it’s typical.”
News organizations are not “lying” primarily by inventing facts; they distort by selection and emphasis. A plane crash is news; the 100,000 flights that land safely are not. A riot is news; the millions of peaceful interactions that make civilization possible are not. This creates a cognitive default: people confuse salience with frequency, and drama with importance.
In effect, the media trains people to think:
“The world is falling apart because I saw ten alarming stories this week.” “This must be how things are, because this is what I keep seeing.”
But what you keep seeing is not “what keeps happening.” It is what keeps being chosen.
The deeper error: substituting narrative for cognition
A worldview is an integration of essentials—your sense of what reality is like and what human life can be. Headlines sabotage this integration by pushing the mind toward:
contextlessness (events without trends) package-deals (one shocking story “proves” a whole theory) emotional reasoning (“I feel fear; therefore danger is omnipresent”)
A dramatic incident can be real and still be unrepresentative. Treating the extraordinary as the normal is not “being informed.” It is a form of irrationality: a refusal to weigh evidence in proportion.
“Things aren’t usually like this” is often the most accurate statement you can make
A crucial sanity-restoring perspective is recognizing: most crises are spikes on a graph, not the graph itself. If you want to understand reality, you must learn to ask:
Is this trend-based or anecdotal? What is the base rate? Compared to what? Over what time span? Is this worsening—or are we simply looking more closely?
This is not complacency. It is objectivity: the discipline of seeing facts in full context.
The Core Ideas and Takeaways from Factfulness (Hans Rosling)
Factfulness is a training manual in resisting worldview-distortion. It argues that many people—especially educated, influential people—hold dramatically inaccurate beliefs about global conditions because their thinking is guided by instincts and media incentives rather than integrated facts.
1) The world is not divided into “developed vs. developing”
One of Rosling’s central points is that the old two-box model (“rich West” vs. “poor rest”) is obsolete. Most people live in middle-income conditions, and many countries have changed rapidly within a generation. When you keep the old categories, you literally can’t see what exists.
Takeaway: reject false binaries. Reality is continuous and differentiated.
2) Negativity bias makes you blind to progress
Humans notice threats more than improvements. Media amplifies this by preferentially broadcasting disasters, conflict, and scandal. The result is a pervasive, learned belief that “everything is getting worse,” even when long-term measures show major improvements in health, poverty reduction, education, and child survival.
Takeaway: “worse headlines” do not mean “worse world.”
3) Most errors come from cognitive “instincts”
Rosling frames repeated thinking errors as instincts—default mental shortcuts that misfire in a complex, statistical world. Among the most important (paraphrased):
Gap instinct: seeing a huge divide where there’s a spectrum Negativity instinct: assuming decline is the norm Fear instinct: mistaking what is frightening for what is likely Size instinct: misjudging proportions (one number without context) Generalization instinct: assuming one case represents a whole category Urgency instinct: demanding immediate action without sufficient evidence
Takeaway: your mind needs method—not moods—to interpret the world.
4) “Single vivid examples” are often epistemological poison
Anecdotes feel like knowledge. But a story is not a statistic, and a shocking case is not a representative sample.
Takeaway: don’t let the concrete steal the role of the concept. Integrate.
5) The right stance is neither cynicism nor naïve cheerleading
Rosling’s posture is: the world can be bad in places and improving overall—and you need both facts at once. Progress does not mean perfection; it means possibility and direction.
Takeaway: rational optimism is earned by evidence, not demanded by faith.
Interpreting Factfulness Through an Objectivist Lens
Objectivism begins with an uncompromising premise: reality is what it is, independent of wishes, fears, or headlines. The moral and practical goal is to bring one’s consciousness into full alignment with facts, by reason.
Rosling’s project is profoundly compatible with Objectivism because it is fundamentally a campaign for:
reason over emotion context over sensation conceptual integration over floating impressions
1) Headlines as a form of “the primacy of consciousness”
When people treat the news cycle as “the world,” they are elevating consciousness (what is presented to them) over existence (what is). This is not merely a mistake; it is a metaphysical inversion: the belief that reality is made by what is spotlighted.
Objectivism rejects this utterly. Events don’t become more real because they are televised.
2) Rational optimism vs. “mood pessimism”
Objectivism does not advocate optimism as a temperament; it advocates confidence in reason—the conviction that reality is intelligible and that success is possible through thought and action.
That is what Rosling offers in the realm of social knowledge: proof that the world is not an incomprehensible nightmare, and that long-range trends can be understood, measured, and improved.
3) The benevolent universe premise
The “benevolent universe premise” (BUP) is not the claim that the world hands you victories. It is the conviction that success is possible, normal, and to be expected for a rational person—because reality is lawful and knowable, and because achievement is a matter of cause and effect, not cosmic whim.
Applied socially, Factfulness supports a cultural corollary: civilization is not a miracle—it is the product of minds at work (science, trade, medicine, technology). The more rational the method, the more progress becomes the norm.
A good way to phrase it (Objectivist-style) is:
the universe is not “friendly,” but it is open to efficacy; progress is not guaranteed, but it is achievable; despair is not realism—often it is ignorance plus emotion.
“The function of reason is not to make tragedy impossible, but to make success possible—and repeatable.”
“Benevolence is not a gift from reality; it is the recognition that reality is intelligible and that values can be achieved.”
Practical Takeaways
Headlines are not a sample of reality; they’re a selection for attention. Ask trend questions, not story questions. (“Over time, compared to what?”) Refuse false binaries. Most of life is gradients and mixed cases. Treat fear as a signal to investigate—not a tool of knowledge. Adopt rational optimism: confidence in facts, method, and human efficacy. Integrate: don’t let today’s drama override long-range reality.
Aphorism: The antidote to headline-induced despair is not hope—it is context.
Media Diet
1. Definition: What Is a Media Diet?
A Media Diet is the total set of informational inputs a person regularly consumes—news, entertainment, social media, commentary, art, and education—evaluated by their cognitive and moral effects, not by popularity or intent.
Just as food affects the body, media affects cognition:
- What you attend to
- How you form abstractions
- What premises you accept
- Which values you normalize
A media diet is therefore epistemological nutrition.
2. The Standard of Evaluation (Objectivist)
Under Objectivism, the standard is man’s life as a rational being.
From this follow four non-negotiable criteria:
Reality Orientation
Does the content respect facts, causality, and identity—or does it evade them?
Conceptual Integrity
Does it clarify concepts—or blur, invert, or corrupt them?
Value Alignment
Does it uphold reason, individualism, and achievement—or sacrifice, collectivism, and ressentiment?
Psychological Effect
Does it strengthen focus, efficacy, and self-responsibility—or undermine them?
Anything that systematically fails these is unhealthy, regardless of entertainment value.
3. Healthy vs. Unhealthy Media Diets:
A. Healthy Media Diet
A healthy media diet is selective, hierarchical, and intentional.
It consists primarily of:
Fact-oriented information
- Data-rich reporting
- Primary sources
- Economic, scientific, and historical analysis grounded in causality
Conceptually rigorous philosophy
- Clear definitions
- Non-contradictory ethics
- Explicit metaphysical premises
(e.g., Objectivism)
Art that projects values
- Depicts purposeful action
- Celebrates competence, independence, achievement
- Portrays man as capable of understanding and shaping reality
Limited, deliberate recreation
- Used consciously
- Does not displace productive focus
- Does not smuggle irrational premises
Key trait:
Nothing is consumed by default.
B. Unhealthy Media Diet
An unhealthy media diet is passive, compulsive, and premise-poisoned.
It is dominated by:
Emotion-driven content
- Outrage cycles
- Fear narratives
- Victimhood framing
Anti-conceptual noise
- Sound bites
- Memes replacing arguments
- Context stripping
Moral inversion
- Success portrayed as guilt
- Failure portrayed as virtue
- Sacrifice elevated above achievement
Chronic distraction
- Infinite scroll
- Algorithmic novelty
- Fragmented attention
Key trait:
Consumption replaces thinking.
4. Consequences of Over-Consuming Unhealthy Media
Over time, the effects are predictable and lawful:
Cognitive Effects
- Reduced attention span
- Impaired abstraction
- Inability to hold long chains of reasoning
- Dependence on emotional cues over facts
Moral Effects
- Cynicism toward achievement
- Suspicion of excellence
- Acceptance of unearned guilt
- Moral paralysis (“everything is corrupt”)
Psychological Effects
- Chronic anxiety
- Learned helplessness
- Identity diffusion
- Loss of agency
Behavioral Outcome
The person becomes:
- Reactive instead of proactive
- Opinionated but incoherent
- Informed but not understanding
- Stimulated but not directed
Result: a mind crowded with content but empty of integration.
5. The Objectivist, Non-Compromise Media Diet (Contrast)
Now contrast this with a contextually strict, non-compromise, nutritious media diet.
Such a person:
Cognitively
- Maintains long-range focus
- Thinks in principles, not episodes
- Integrates new information hierarchically
- Rejects contradictions immediately
Morally
- Judges ideas by their relationship to life
- Identifies value-promoters vs. value-destroyers
- Does not grant moral sanction to irrationality
Psychologically
- Experiences clarity, not chaos
- Confidence rooted in understanding
- Emotional responses aligned with reality
Behaviorally
- Chooses media as a tool, not a habit
- Limits exposure to irrational culture
- Engages deeply rather than widely
Result: a mind that is quiet, ordered, and potent.
Final Principle
A media diet is not about information quantity.
It is about epistemological hygiene.
You cannot think clearly if you habitually consume content that treats clarity as optional.
Working From Your Phone
For most people, a phone is where work goes to die.
It is the object most associated with distraction, compulsion, fragmentation, and the quiet erosion of attention. For a long time, I accepted that framing myself. The phone was something to manage, to defend against, or to escape from.
That changed when I stopped treating the phone as a temptation problem and started treating it as a tool-design problem.
Removing the Enemy, Not Fighting It
Over a year ago, I stripped my phone back to almost nothing.
I replaced the launcher with Olauncher, and for a long stretch my home screen consisted of just Kindle.
- No social feeds.
- No notification pings.
- No “just checking something quickly.”
What surprised me was not how much distraction disappeared — that part was expected — but how natural the phone began to feel again. With no cognitive landmines waiting for attention, the device stopped pulling and started responding.
The phone became quiet.
Phones Are Excellent Creation Devices — If You Let Them Be
During the holiday period, this became obvious in an unexpected way.
I started creating AI-assisted Warhammer 40k stories — text and images — entirely from my phone. Not as a compromise. Not as a fallback. As a deliberate choice.
The phone turned out to be ideal for:
- Short, focused creative bursts
- Visual iteration
- Writing without the psychological weight of a “workstation”
The absence of a keyboard did not reduce thinking so long as I was focused on creative output, not distracting input.
What emerged was a rhythm closer to sketching than drafting. More direct. Less self-conscious. More honest.
The Next Logical Step: Building a Website From a Phone
That trajectory naturally led to the current experiment: building and maintaining this site using SimDif, primarily from my phone.
Again, this is not about convenience. It is about matching tools to modes of thinking.
The phone is excellent for:
- Writing Structuring ideas
- Publishing small, complete units of thought
- Reviewing content as a reader would experience it
The computer, by contrast, I now reserve for:
- Heavy analysis
- Long-form editing
- Complex visual or structural work
- Tasks that benefit from spatial expansion
This separation matters.
Different tools encourage different kinds of cognition. Blurring them creates friction. Respecting them creates flow.
Messenger as Email (And Why Notifications Matter More Than Apps)
One of the more counterintuitive changes I made was to start using Messenger like my email.
Not by adding more messaging apps — but by removing everything else.
I turned off nearly all notifications.
I removed social apps entirely.
Messenger remained not because it is inherently better, but because it became quiet.
When notifications stop competing for attention, communication becomes intentional again. Messages are checked deliberately, responded to deliberately, and then set aside.
This principle generalizes.
The problem is not phones.
The problem is undifferentiated signals.
When every app can interrupt you, no app deserves your attention. When signals are filtered, tools regain their proper function.
The Broader Principle
What I’ve learned is simple but far-reaching:
You do not need fewer tools.
You need clearer roles for your tools.
This applies to:
- Phones vs computers
- Messaging vs publishing
- Work vs reflection Input vs creation
By redesigning how tools are used, rather than trying to rely on discipline alone, the positives of modern technology can be amplified while the negatives quietly disappear.
Not through abstinence.
Through structure.
Closing Thought
A phone can be a slot machine.
Or it can be a notebook.
The difference is not the device.
It is the system you build around it.
For me, working from my phone is no longer a compromise. It is the result of deliberately aligning tools with intention — and letting reason, rather than habit, decide how technology fits into life.
The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
Repair Language
I Feel
1. I’m getting scared.
2. Please say that more gently.
3. Did I do something wrong?
4. That hurt my feelings.
5. That felt like an insult.
6. I’m feeling sad.
7. I feel blamed. Can you rephrase that?
8. I’m feeling unappreciated.
9. I feel defensive. Can you rephrase that?
10. Please don’t lecture me.
11. I don’t feel like you understand me right now.
12. I am starting to feel flooded.
13. I feel criticized. Can you rephrase that?
14. I’m getting worried.
I Need to Calm Down
1. Can you make things safer for me?
2. I need things to be calmer right now.
3. I need your support right now.
4. Just listen to me right now and try to understand.
5. Tell me you love me.
6. Can I have a kiss?
7. Can I take that back?
8. Please be gentler with me.
9. Please help me calm down.
10. Please be quiet and listen to me.
11. This is important to me. Please listen.
12. I need to finish what I was saying.
13. I am starting to feel flooded.
14. I feel criticized. Can you rephrase that?
15. Can we take a break?
Sorry
1. My reactions were too extreme. Sorry.
2. I really blew that one.
3. Let me try again.
4. I want to be gentler toward you right now, and I don’t know how.
5. Tell me what you hear me saying.
6. I can see my part in all this.
7. How can I make things better?
8. Let’s try that over again.
9. What you are saying is . . .
10. Let me start again in a softer way.
11. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.
Get to Yes
1. You’re starting to convince me.
2. I agree with part of what you’re saying.
3. Let’s compromise here.
4. Let’s find our common ground.
5. I never thought of things that way.
6. This problem is not very serious in the big picture.
7. I think your point of view makes sense.
8. Let’s agree to include both our views in a solution.
9. I am thankful for . . .
10. One thing I admire about you is . . .
11. I see what you’re talking about.
Stop Action!
1. I might be wrong here.
2. Please, let’s stop for a while.
3. Let’s take a break.
4. Give me a moment. I’ll be back.
5. I’m feeling flooded.
6. Please stop.
7. Let’s agree to disagree here.
8. Let’s start all over again.
9. Hang in there. Don’t withdraw.
10. I want to change the topic.
11. We are getting off track.
I Appreciate
1. I know this isn’t your fault.
2. My part of this problem is . . .
3. I see your point.
4. Thank you for . . .
5. That’s a good point.
6. We are both saying . . .
7. I understand.
8. I love you.
9. I am thankful for . . .
10. One thing I admire about you is . . .
11. This is not your problem, it’s our problem.

